Why are we paranoid?
As I was previously writing about trust, I felt like coming up with something quite opposite would be a great subject to discuss.
Paranoia.
Do you ever like when someone simply talks to you because they feel like they have to, or if they're busy, keep answering vague and you, the one who wants to share something, socialize and have fun talking, gets to feel a lack of interest in the conversation? You'd rather be told "I can't talk now, we shall talk a bit later, is that okay?" rather than just keep being answered like you weren't even there. Never ever enjoyed people who hang out with you because they didn't want to get out alone?
Do you ever like when someone simply talks to you because they feel like they have to, or if they're busy, keep answering vague and you, the one who wants to share something, socialize and have fun talking, gets to feel a lack of interest in the conversation? You'd rather be told "I can't talk now, we shall talk a bit later, is that okay?" rather than just keep being answered like you weren't even there. Never ever enjoyed people who hang out with you because they didn't want to get out alone?
Ever had the feeling you're being left out or just thought about what others think about you?
These are some of the causes that start the paranoid thoughts that can only be dealt by developing your inner feeling of TRUST. If you can't handle this trust, if you can't focus on it, heal it, prove it that it is true, because half of the feeling of TRUST, is almost a full of the word "TRUE" (TRUst - TRUe). So you have to trust that the things are indeed true, not fake, not made up (by your mind), not even false.
We become doubtful when we don't trust something, so we tend to want evidence. "Everything has to have an answer, so we must find that answer"; how about "Not everything has to be answered if there's no actual evidence"? Our mind can trick us into falling deeply into something that isn't even real. Paranoia is linked with pessimism, because we tend to expect the worse from every situation, instead of expecting the good in every situation.
Why is paranoia so bad? Well simply because it can start literally from nothing and just ruin something we might like or love. All we need is one paranoid thought, and one evidence to prove it right and *BOOM* there you have it - We will always feel like there's something awaiting to prove us wrong, that our hopes will be diminished and destroyed. This is the sort of thing that needs to disappear as fast as possible from our mind, otherwise it can lead to upsetting others, break-ups and even "self-destruction" (by that I mean not being able to think coherently).
Not everything is meant to be good so our brain must be trained for this. Being ready for the worse that can happen could turn disastrously bad for your mood once the "bad thing" that you're expecting does not come anymore. You might also be wishing for the bad thing to come so you won't look embarrassed in front of your friends, so they won't think you're weird.
We all know pessimism is not good, this is why we must believe that paranoia is only something temporary, something that won't affect our mind permanently, because this is indeed bad. I don't think anyone of us wants to become an unsociable person, worried all the time. Everyone needs to live their lives like some life to remember, not some life to throe away!
We all know pessimism is not good, this is why we must believe that paranoia is only something temporary, something that won't affect our mind permanently, because this is indeed bad. I don't think anyone of us wants to become an unsociable person, worried all the time. Everyone needs to live their lives like some life to remember, not some life to throe away!
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